"There is Purpose in Pain"

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“There is purpose in Pain”

-Robin LaShelle



Last night I was on the phone with my best friend who has been away on the road for the past few weeks. We were playing catch up and sharing things that had been going on in our lives and we began to reflect over some of the challenges that had taken place in our lives. Charlena begin to share all the wonderful things that God was doing in her life and my mind begin to drift during the conversation and I begin to think about some of her recent challenges, then I begin to think about how everything she went through was setting her up for her right now. Its not my story to tell but its amazing how one event after the other had to take place in order for to receive what God had in store for her. I think it safe to say, one particular situation was painful and mind boggling and she found her self questioning life, finding it hard to accept the fact that sometimes God plan is not our plan and many times we may not understand his plan but if we continue to trust him and reframe from trying to work things out ourselves, at the end of the battle we will see his glory. She said to me “Robin after everything I just had to go through God still made a way, He still had a way of providing” I said “There is purpose in pain” and me just saying that, I realized It was something I needed to hear myself. I pulled out my notebook and I begin to doodle over and over again there is Purpose in Pain, there is purpose In pain, There is Purpose in Pain and begin to say it silently to myself and I made it personal… I said “Robin There is unifying purpose in Pain” The very fact that you are able to emotionally connect to adversities is clear indication that God is not done and you are not at a place where you have become completely numb, and or lost your mind. I reminded of a situation my mother went through in 2009. She’s was walking around in pain and long story short she went to the doctor only to find out that the pain she was in was life threatening. In fact she was bleeding internally and didn’t even know it. Then we later found out that the pain was related to something far greater than any of us could ever imagine, but the blessing in it all was the fact that she was able to feel the pain, now if my mother didn’t feel any pain at all (like many people who went through what she went through) this thing could have took her right up out of here, but this is why I say there is unification in pain. Everything that took place with my mother was orchestrated by God and connected to her destiny. I believe It’s just some things that God forces us to go through so that we are fully equipped to handle our destiny, and something’s that God will forces to happen so that we can walk in our destiny. Sometimes in life when we are destined to do something, we allow fear to get in the way and we want to stay in our safe place. We lack faith and become afraid of failure all because we struggle with having control. If we are unsure of Gods next move we don’t want to trust him at all or we will trust him with part of the situation but not the entire situation. Our biggest failure in life is failing to get out of our own way and being afraid of a little pain. However we live in a world were we cant get around “Pain” there is no exceptions, no way to get around it but if you endure until the end of the test God will surely how you his glory, How do I know? I have witnessed it through the life of my best friend and my mother. I pray you have been inspired and encouraged to believe that even though pain is an uncomfortable place to dwell in, there is always purpose in what you go through, you may not know what it is right away but God will reveal it to you in the end!

Until we chat again, be blessed and go through the pain so that you can walk in your destiny!

Robin Lashelle

When "Thanks" turns "Night" into "Day"

When "Thanks" turns "Night"
Into "Day"

As we are entering into this specific time of "Thanks", I have been doing a lot of thinking, reflecting back over this past year and the obstacles that me and my family had to endure. I said God this year by far has been one the hardest years of my life... Then I begin to think about the book of Romans 8:18 For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us. That provoked something in me and it encouraged me to hang on just a little while longer and thank God in the storm, and if you are anything like me your situations are magnified in the late night hour when I'm laying in my bed and its silence all around me, it is then my mind begin racing and i find myself thinking about all the calamities I am being faced with. During the day I have it all together, because I'm occupied with other things but, it is when I get home and I get all relaxed and go into my bedroom and all kinds of thoughts begin to surface. In the book of 2Corinthians chapter 10:4 the bible tells us that the weapons of warfare are not carnal. To simplify the scripture its not the situation at hand that have you all bent out of shape, pulling your hair out and going all crazy. It's the Demons in high places that come in trying to snatch your faith and interrupt your thoughts and tell you that it's over and nothing is going to get better. God knows this year was a fight for me and my family and the enemy was on my back trying to convince me to give up. Give up on my Dreams, Give up on my Finances, Give up on my Brother, Give up on my husband, Give up on being able to conceive a Child. Give up Robi, Give up on The book, Give up on Awareness, Give up on the Church, just let it all Go and Give up, and I lay there in the dark and just let the tears flow, with no one to call no one to talk to because the hour is late, But the other night when I felt that Demon rising up I decided to pick up my bible and I just opened it and I said ok God whatever page this bible is on I'm going to read it and believe that you will give me what i need. I refuse to go into the season of "Thanks", sad, stressed and doubtful so you give me a word. I opened the bible and it was on Psalms 119 and when I got down to verse 62 the first clause said " I will rise up at midnight to give thanks to You" Immediately I got my strength, because its at the midnight hour I am in my greatest fight with the enemy. I said ok God I hear you. I said let me get my "David" on. The scripture said at midnight David got up and he begin to give God praise. Let me paint a picture for you, his thoughts were not consumed with the possibilities of the troubles that was waiting on him in the morning. David was occupied with praise and giving God thanks. The thing I found to be interesting was the hour in which David chose to commune with God, he chose the midnight hour. The Hour that ends one Day and begin another day. My mother often tell me to get up in the early hour to spend time with God because it sets the tone of the day, when you start off with God he stays with you throughout your day, and your ready to handle what ever the enemy sends your way. But David on the other hand said let me pull out a double edged sword, he said I'm going to be one up, I'm going to praise Him where one day ends and another day begins. So I said ok David I'm with you, and even though I missed midnight, I looked at the clock it said 4:00 am it was still dark outside... I went into the bathroom closed the door and I begin to thank and praise God, and while I was praising him I begin to speak the things I was taking back, I said God I thank you that I got my family back, I thank you that we got health back, I thank you we got our finances back, I thank you that we got our ministry back and I continued on in thanks and praise and when I walked out of the Bathroom the clock said 630am and the sun was coming out and I said God I thank you because when I went into the bathroom I was in my "Night war" but when I came out you were smiling because the Sun was shining which was indication I had just "Thanked" my way into my "Day" and from this day forward I must give you praise where one day end and another begin. I encourage you, if you're reading this blog to "Thank" your way into your "Day".

Until next time be blessed!

-Robin Lashelle


Happy Thanksgiving!!!

Weightloss Affirmation #1

Weightloss Affirmation #1

Lack of Confidence in myself or insecurities and confusion of rather I'm beautiful just as I am has nothing to do with my weightloss journey. To be healthy, happy and in control of my well being has everything to do with my goal to change. Simply put, I just want a healthier life and to know that I have full control over every aspect of my life.

At the end of July I was preparing to go to a tent revival where my stepfather was ministering and I got dressed and happen to look in the mirror at myself and I did not like the woman I saw in that mirror... Her face was swollen, her arms were huge and her ankles had been swelling do to high blood pressure, I had my younger sister take a picture of me that day and I said to myself this is the last time you will allow yourself to fall victim to your situations and find comfort in food. I begin to think about my, at the time partially, completed book entitled "Finish Happy" and I said to myself hmmm, the title of this book would be a lie if did not gain control over my eating... It was at that moment I had a moment of truth with myself.

You are Not healthy
You are an emotional eater
You are hiding your beauty underneath fat
You are at risk of High blood Pressure, diabetes, heart complications etc.
you are slowly killing yourself

If I can tell a untold truth, and (I speak more about this in my book) food became my bestfriend, I would secretly eat until I was so full and I begin to feel sick.
The Bible says, “If you find honey, eat just enough–too much of it, and you will vomit” (Proverbs 25:16).

Eating becomes a psychological as well as spiritual warfare for example, overeating is turning to food for help instead of seeking God and for provision. The Bible says, "My God shall meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:19), so let me make this personal, My name is Robin LaShelle, and I am a ex-emotional eater that worship food and denied the power of the God I claimed to love. Why do i say that? Because every time a problem rolled around, I ran to food. Mentally I believed that soda would make me feel better, the crunching of the potato chips would drown out the worries in my head, the fried foods would help me get over the lost of my baby, the cookies would ease the pain of disappointment, Snickers would get me through the rough day that I never thought would end. Did I verbally speak these things? No I didn't, but actions speak louder than words and you know what? My actions depicted, I had an addiction to food. I looked to food to meet my needs and it became more and more important to me until it became compulsive, it became an idol, a false god. Last night as I was going through pictures in my phone just from this year. My mind begin to race, each picture I looked at I took a mental trip back to that day. On most days I had a lot going on mentally as we'll as emotionally. From February up until now I saw the fluctuation in my weight. I had no self control and one of my biggest problems is not being able to control a situation or being able to fix a situation and in that I didn't recognize I had given the power I had, over to an addiction and if I wasn't careful I would eventually create problems that I couldn't recover from. A person given to appetite has little or no willpower to resist his excessive cravings. I know first hand. I have a very close love one who I love with all my heart struggling with an addiction to alcohol and it saddens me because each day I am watching him deteriorate, and its because of his addiction I recognized my addiction. I refuse to go through my life lacking self control. I refuse to give my life over to any form of addiction. I am determined to gain all control back over my life, but with addictions you can't do it alone. I established a prayer life I put God before this journey and every morning and night I thank him for giving me the courage and the strength to defeat this demon I was battling with, but I had to first want deliverance.

Make up and trendy clothing can only camouflage your addictions for so long, after a while your intake begins to take full control and you're lost inside a world that has very few exit doors...

Peace and blessings until we talk again

-Robin LaShelle

I am... Recap of sunday service

"I AM"

Yesterday in church the word of God went fourth with so much power. My stepfather who is also my pastor, rendered an amazing word entitled "I Am" this word was an on time word and I had to blog about it.

The message "I Am" is a phenomenal message that I believe everyone should be privileged to know about. We all go through life experiencing challenges and calamities, all we see is the situation at hand often times we don't cease the opportunity to exercise our faith. We have all been guilty of it... "bills are due, don't have the money to pay them" "the doctor Dignosed me with this, I don't feel like I can make it" " my son is a drug addict, my daughter is a alcoholic" "well I want to start a business but I don't have the financial backing to do so" I know about this all to well I am definitely guilty of running with my faith tank on "E". Let me expose me, the earlier part of last year I found out that I was pregnant. In the midst of my pregnancy I was told that I had a condition called endometriosis and it was a great possibility that I wouldn't be able to carry my baby to term. I must admit my heart was shattered and I took the doctors word and begin to prepare myself for the worst. Often times I wonder what would have happened if I pursued God, what would have happened if I upped my faith and went before God with all I had in me, but the past is gone and I can't undo what has taken place but I can take total control over my faith in the future. The bible teaches us that Faith is the substance of all things hope for and the evidence of things unseen. So you have to see it before you see it, believe it and act as if you are already living in the manifestation of Gods promises. If you have dreams and aspirations begin to speak of yourself as so. Sickness has afflicted your body? Claim your healing. The I Am method is designed to put you in a posture of receiving what God has for you. I am healed, I am Free, I am successful, I am at peace, I am a successful author, I Am a successful entrenuer, I am a mother, I am a wife, I am everything that has called me to be. Every now and again we have to remind the enemy of what we are not, yes the doctor diagnosed me with this and they say I have a touch of that but I Am Not or afflicted. I don't have any tangible money I the bank but I Am not broke. My business hasnt taken off yet but I am not a failure. My daddy was an alcoholic but I Am Not carrying that generational curse with me because I Am the head and not the tail, I am above and not beneath... I am calling those things that are not as if they were and I am walking in my destiny.

I want to encourage you every morning and say you I Am's then go on with your day living them

Good day loves
Xoxo

-RlAshe

Spiritual, Mental, Physical and Social Makeover

30 day spiritual, physical, mental and Social makeover

So yesterday after got home, I went to the health food store to get some Green tea and to find something to boost my energy. I asked the guy that was working there could he recommend something. He looked at me and said "you look extremely tired" I'm thinking to myself wow... Does it show that much? He said " I'm not trying to cause any offense you just look like your mind is everywhere and you haven't had much sleep" I said to myself yeah it's showing and that's not good. He asked me what I do for a living and I told him a lot... Then I went into detail of what typical day is like in my life. He recommended these all natural vitamins and agreed that the green tea would be good with the vitamins. He then pulled out a piece of paper and said I should challenge myself to a makeover... Hmmm my original thoughts was yeah I can go for a new hairstyle, maybe some MAC and I'm long overdue for a new pair of shoes...lol. I took the paper and sat in my car and begin to read and this makeover was nothing like I had in mind. This was a 30 day Spiritual, Physical, Mental and Social Makeover, something that exceeds the vanity of a makeover... I really wanted to share this because I think a lot of people can benefit from this challenge.

The Challenge:

Spiritual-
Start off every morning with Prayer, meditation and /or devotion

Make a list of things that you want to be mentally free from

Make a list of things you like and dislike about yourself

Journal and recap your day, each hight. Make sure you cap on yours highs and lows for the day

End each day with self encouragement!

Mental-
Try to fast from any negative energy meaning:

Write a list of people you are associated with, are they equipped to go where you are going

Reality TV
Gossiping
Arguing
Negative conversations
Holding grudges
Music
Bad habits
Bad company

Physical:

Take a before picture of yourself or have someone else take the picture for you

Start each morning off with some form of Cardio

Make sure you have 5 small meals a day.

No:

Energy drinks
Soda
Junk food
keep a food journal

May sure you have at least
2 servings of fruit each day

End the night with 30 minutes of cardio

Social- We live in a day and age where social media has become a part of our everyday lifestyle. We tweet, we Facebook, we blog etc, and a lot of times we use social networking to vent about our day and tell the world how angry you are at so and so and we can go on and on but for the next 30 days turn your social networking to:

Inspire
Encourage
Love
Up lift

Each day pick a friend and let the know you care

If your feeling negative energy and feel the urge to vent to cyber world pull out a pen and pad write down the issue then attempt to write down the solution instead of spreading more negative energy

On Day 30 recap and journal the difference this challenge has made in your life

Also feel free to post updates in the comments box below! Happy MakeOver!

My new book, My new outlook on life "Finish Happy"

Well it's been a year and almost seven months since I last posted anything on my blog, if I may be honest the past year and half has been by far one of the most challenging periods of my life, but through it all I made it and I am determined to finish this thing happy! In the midst of me standing my challenges, everything from health concerns, loosing just about everything I owned to miscarrying my baby . I some how managed to find comfort in writing and I asked God to give me the words to complete my first book. A book that would inspire and touch the hearts of others that may encounter some of the same things I have experienced and they question rather or not they can or of they are willing to make it. It would be unrealistic to say I was calm and I took everyday like a champ because I didn't but what I did do is wrap myself in the arms of God and begin to read and research his word to find out what he had to say about my situation, what he promised for my life. God took me back to 2008 when I was so anxious to complete my book, I remember one night saying "God give me the Words to complete this project, give me the inspiration to encourage life, i said God use me that you will get the glory" and that's when God begin to send me through the storm... First my Father, suffered and fought for his life for 6 months. Then in 2009 my mothers health was attacked and she had to undergo a major surgery. 2010 my nephew was Dignosed with TGA at birth and he had to have open heart surgery. Then in 2011, I lost everything from my car, my home, to my unborn child, and for one second I thought I was going to loose my mind but God reminded me that I told him I wanted him to get the glory so he put me in a place where I couldn't depend on nobody but him...

This book is the reflection of the strength training plan that God sat aside for my life and I am so excited to share my testimony with the world my book will be released this fall and I'm almost positive it's something in my book that everyone can pull from. I wrote my book in the in the form of a novella, I compiled shorts stories, never before posted Blogs and poetry into this project, but the most important element of the book is my Victory, My Happiness and how I chose to come out on top... Every chance the Devil get to attack he takes advantage but it's all good because every chance my daddy above gets to protect his child, he takes advantage... So I have No problem with putting my Beyonce on and looking at that joker and letting him know "you must not know bout me, you must not know bout me" because there is no battle I have to fight alone! I titled my book "Finish Happy" because that's what I chose to do and I pray that you will support this project and help me inspire and help someone that may not feel like they can stand the storm.

I will be posting snippets from this project within the next couple of weeks. So please help me spread the word, the one thing I can say about everything I had to go through, it had nothing to do with me but everything to do with being a inspiration to someone else.

I am also looking for a nonprofit organization to donate a portion of my book sales to. If you know of any organizations that can benefit from this project please contact me at

248.376.8671
Or via email

Finishhappyfinishstrong@gmail.com

A woman's Fragrance

The other day I was privileged to sit in a room full of woman... I sat back and walked the room with my eyes. I noticed every woman in the room was a beautiful creation flawlessly sculptured and hand crafted by Gods hand. So many wonderful fragrances filled the air. The aroma of greatness travelled through out the room. I begin to think to myself wow, what would it be like if each of these woman recognized their own scent. What would it be like if every woman in here was confident that the unique aroma that flowed from her spirit was significantly needed to make the world go round.
When was the last time you checked your fragrance?
When was the last time you appreciated your fragrance?
I read an article that said " if the fragrance of a woman vanished the world would stop". I can't speak for any other woman but the fact that someone saw fit to publish that simple line, it did something to my ego. I like my fragrance and I wear it proudly, Dr. Angelou said it best, I am a phenomenal woman and there's no other like me. I remember trying on some sexy graffiti one of my mothers favorite fragrances. When she first wore it, I thought to myself, I have to get that, so I went and purchased me some, got home put it on and absolutely hated how it smelled. Why? Because it did not agree with my body chemistry. I said that, to say this, one of the biggest problems we have as woman, is embracing our inner fragrance, we struggle with true identity, we neglect and reconstruct the original woman. Now please don't get me wrong, because I too enhance my beauty, I love cosmetics, I love being versatile with my hair, if the truth be told I consider myself a fashionista, but more over I Love Me! I see so many woman lost in the identity of others that its scary. Theirs a quote I love to go by " an original is always worth more than a copy" I stand by that quote. Its ok to be inspired but when you become lost in some one else identity you defeat your purpose of being. In my mind I house the fragrance that makes the world go round.... Embrace your fragrance and allow the original scent to flow freely from your spirit and change the world. You look Good on You. When you wear someone else fragrance it doesn't agree with your inner chemistry!

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